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Give Up Or Give In

We have two choices:  We can either give up OR we can give in…

You may be thinking, “Um, what’s the difference?”

Stick with me, kid, and I’ll let you in on a little secret.

When you think of “giving up”, what automatically comes to mind?

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Maybe something along the lines of –

Failing…Losing…Less than…Without…

The official definition of “giving up” is: cease making an effort, resign oneself to failure.

What about “giving in”?  What words pop into your head now?

Back down…Submit…Quit…Concede…

Here is the official definition of “giving in”: cease fighting or arguing; yield; surrender.

Both of these phrases tend to have a negative connotation BUT…if you’ve been following my blog for any length of time, you know we aren’t about the negativity here.

What if “giving in” meant something else?

What if “giving in” meant that you were giving in to your goals, to your dreams and desires…that you were in fact surrendering to them and letting them happen (and making them happen) INSTEAD OF “giving up”.

There are a plethora of reasons people “give up” before they even begin… because it seems too hard or you don’t think you can do it or others don’t think you can do it or you don’t have time or you don’t have the money or you have kids or you work too much or you have too many obligations or you are too tired or you don’t know where to start or…I could go on but I think you get the picture.

Giving up is easy.  It’s for amateurs.  It’s for the nay-sayers.  It’s for the weak.  For the faint of heart.

It is NOT for YOU.

Giving in…that’s what YOU need to FOCUS on.

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GIVING in to your fear…letting it engulf you…envelope you…cocoon you…because you know that if it scares the hell out of you…than that is exactly what you should be going for.

Give in to your imagination.  Picture what it will be like when you fit into those jeans or write that novel or buy the house on the beach or have the job you want or the relationship you desire.

Give in to the BIG goals.  And I mean BIG- things that you think others were meant to accomplish instead of you.  Things that you are scared to even say out loud because you’re afraid others may laugh at you.

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Give in to what you want…to what you can’t stop thinking about…to what keeps you up at night…

Give in to THAT.

And…when you do…there is NOTHING you can’t do.

Fear is Fuel

me fearYou know that feeling you get as you contemplate doing something big?  Making a big change?  Making a huge leap?  Taking a chance?

 

Your stomach tightens.  Your heart beats like a hummingbird’s wings.  Maybe your hands shake.  A thousand thoughts race through your head simultaneously yet you are able to pinpoint what each one is trying to tell you – STOP –  they all say.

“Don’t do it.  Go back.  It’s too scary.  It’s not going to work.”

And then…the “what if’s” start…

What if people think it’s a dumb idea?

What if I fail?

What if I lose money?

What if I can’t figure it out?

What if people criticize me?

What if…what if…what if…

All of this…all of these counter-productive thoughts and jittery feelings can be summarized in one four-letter word…

FEAR.

People think “fear” is an ugly word – BUT – what if it weren’t?

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When fear wells up inside of you, what if, instead of backing off, you embrace it?  What if you welcome it with open arms, knowing that when you feel that fear it means you are onto something…it means that you are heading in the right direction?

Kind of counter-intuitive, right?

But, think about it for a  minute.  If something is easy, is it scary?

No, of course not.  Because it’s easy.  If it’s easy, you know you won’t fail – you know the outcome.

The unknown can be down right terrifying.  The “what-if’s” are never scarce and the critics are constantly whispering in your ear.

If you are afraid…that is when you know you are CLOSE – close to something big.  Close to something life-changing.  Close to EXACTLY where you need to be.

Fear means…go for it!  Go for what makes you want to pee your pants.

If it’s easy, it’s not really worth having.  It has little value.

It’s safe to NOT try.  It’s safe to remain comfortable, to keep doing the same thing – day in and day out.  It’s safe to stay with the status-quo and do the ORDINARY things everyone else around you is doing.

BUT

If you want to be EXTRAordinary…then there is a different path for you.

If it’s HARD.  If it’s SCARY.  If you can’t imagine life without it (“it” refers to whatever your particular goals are) then it is PRICELESS.  All the hard work…the time…the effort…the energy…it will all be WORTH it.

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Use that FEAR to FUEL your fire…to ignite your desires…to smoke the nay-sayers and to light up your life in ways you have only dreamed about.

 

 

 

 

 

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Just Go For It

I’ve been taking a lot of risks lately – not physical risks like skydiving or bungee jumping…but more of the emotional type of risks.

I have just been going for it – and guess what?  It feels AHH-MAZING!

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I’ve been reaching out to people and asking them to be a part of my team (Team Fight For Fit).  I’ve been asking people if they would like to join challenge groups to work on their health and fitness.  I have been connecting with old friends I haven’t seen in a while (like years) and asking them to hang out.

I am going after what I want.  I am going after what I want my life to look like.  I’m being more authentically ME.

Even when the people I reach out to don’t respond or they say no – you know what?  I feel PROUD.  I’m proud of myself.  Proud that I tried.  Proud that I won’t keep wondering “what if” because now I have an answer.

The rejections I get.  The silence on the other end.  It means I’m LIVING.  It means I’m working towards my dreams.

And do you know something else I’ve recently realized?  It’s not about whether the person says yes to joining my team or not.  It’s not about whether the person responds or not to my offer…it’s actually NOT about the outcome at all.

Before, I used to think it was ALL about the end result.  That’s how you measure success – how many “yes’s” you get, how many people you recruit, how much money is in the bank – BUT I’m here to tell you it’s NOT!

As I put myself out there more and more, share my personal thoughts and feelings, share my transformations (inside and outside) I realize it’s all about the PROCESS.  It’s about who I am becoming.

I am becoming STRONGER.  More confident.  More sure of what I want for myself.  Of who I want to be.  Of my purpose in life (besides wife and mother).

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So, today I say to you:  Do what scares the CRAP out of you.  Do that one thing that you are afraid to do.

Climb that wall.  Jump that hurdle.  Because, what’s on the other side is BEAUTIFUL.  It may not look like what you expected, BUT it’s beautiful all the same.

 

 

Introducing Team Fight For Fit

In honor of the fact that I have FINALLY picked a name for my growing team of BeachBody Coaches, I wanted to share what this team is all about!

TEAM FIGHT FOR FIT

I have been racking my brain for a year (literally) with what to call my team.

WHY?

Because our name needed to convey our true identity .

Our name has meaning.  It has purpose.  It describes our mission – what we stand for and what we want for ourselves and others who join us.

Fight For Fit means we NEVER stop working on our health and fitness.  We fight for ours and we fight for others to do the same.  We show other Mamas out there that it is NECESSARY and POSSIBLE to take care of themselves.

We want you to know that you need to FIGHT for what you want- how you want to feel on the inside and look on the outside, how you want your life (all aspects) to look and the type of person you want to be.  All of this goes hand in hand and makes up your level of “fitness”- mental, spiritual and physical.

ANYONE can have this – the level of “fit” they desire.  Whether you are a mama of a 2 year old, tantrum-throwing toddler or a mama of 3 kids in college, YOU can do this.  You too, can FIGHT for what you want…for what FIT looks like to you.

Introducing…TEAM FIGHT FOR FIT…

Who We Are:

  • Women
  • Mamas
  • Work-at-home- Mamas
  • Former Air Force
  • Spouses
  • Military Spouses
  • College Graduates
  • Post- College Graduates
  • People Who Make Mistakes
  • People Who Keep Trying
  • Counselors
  • Teachers
  • Ballet Dancers
  • Real Estate Agents
  • Care Takers
  • People with MS
  • Volunteers
  • Writers
  • Readers
  • Dreamers
  • Doers
  • Hikers
  • Runners
  • Positive-minded
  • Entrepreneurs
  • Learners
  • Fitness Lovers
  • Fitness Beginners
  • Foodies

Who We Are Not:

  • sales people
  • pushy people
  • fake people
  • drama people
  • perfect
  • negative-minded

If YOU are looking for:

  •  something more in your life
  • something of your OWN that you can build
  • a community of positive people
  • a work-at-home opportunity
  • more friendships
  • a chance to help others
  • freedom to create your schedule
  • freedom to design your life
  • extra income
  • a healthy lifestyle that is SUSTAINABLE

Then you owe it to yourself AND your family to join Team Fight For Fit

I’m REALLY excited to be building a team of other like-minded Mamas who want to work on their health and fitness goals while earning an income from home and helping others do the same!

Being a Team BeachBody Coach allows me to have something of my own and it allows my family to have the lifestyle we truly desire, the freedom to choose and the income to do extra things that we wouldn’t be able to do otherwise.  I want other mamas to have this opportunity too!

I am inviting YOU to learn more by sending me a message on Facebook @thisfitlife

I can’t wait to talk to you and introduce you to our growing team!

The Other 95 Percent

Did you know that 95% of people in the world will never reach their full potential?

That is A LOT of people who are choosing to live an average life…who are choosing to settle for mediocrity.

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They will never have the life they want, the job they want, the income they want, the relationship they want, the friends they want, the house they want, the body they want….(the list could go on) because they are NOT willing to put the work in.

This is a sad and unfortunate truth.  How many people do you know who WISH for something different in their lives but are not doing anything about it?  They continue to do whatever it is they are doing to uphold whatever level of mediocrity they have achieved because they don’t know what else to do.  They aren’t willing to put in the work…to make a CHANGE…

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It is all up to YOU.  The choice is yours…do you settle for what you have or do you GO FOR IT???

At the end of my life I want to be able to say, “I gave it my all.  It wasn’t perfect.  I wasn’t the best.  But I gave it everything I had.  No regrets.”

Change is scary – I get it!!!  It’s much easier to do what you’ve always done…or is it?

Is it easier to continue to be overweight instead of exercising and eating healthy?

Is it easier to continue being depressed than it is to go get the help you need?

Is it easier to stay in a job you hate than to find a new one?

Only you can answer that…but for me…it’s a no-brainer.  I would choose exercising, getting help and finding a new job any day over continuing to do something that isn’t working for me.

How do I know?  Because I’ve been there!  For years I’ve done things that weren’t working for me and I continued to do them because I just didn’t know what else to do.  Was I happy?  Hell no!  Was I always looking for something else?  Hell yes!

Finally, I found BeachBody and coaching and I knew deep in my bones that this was it…that this opportunity could be something HUGE – huge for me mentally, physically, emotionally and financially.

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I have BIG dreams.  I have BIG goals and I will not stand in my way.  That’s right – I said “I will not stand in MY way.”

Are you willing to do what the other 95% are not?  And if you are…and when you do…people will judge.  They will judge and form opinions about what they don’t understand.

They will talk.  They will laugh.  They will point fingers.

But you know what?  LET THEM.

Because those are the people who will remain in the 95% while you, my dear, will be rising to the top 5%.