23 Aug Let Them Talk
At some point in your life (if it hasn’t happened already which I find very doubtful) people are going to talk about you…they are going to talk behind your back…they are going to judge you…criticize you…belittle you…you name it.
People can be cruel. People can be haters. They are afraid of what they don’t know, of what they don’t understand. They are afraid that you will be better than them, smarter than them, faster than them, stronger than them, prettier than them, more successful than them…and so…they you down in order to lift themselves up.
You can’t control that. That’s their stuff…their issues…NOT yours.
But here’s what you can control…YOU! You CAN control how you feel about yourself, how you see yourself and whether you let others’ opinions (and that’s just what they are – opinions- not facts) affect you or not.
I may have mentioned this before but I was picked on A LOT growing up. All through elementary, middle and high school I was ridiculed, scrutinized and bullied. People made fun of me behind my back and to my face. It didn’t stop until I went to college.
It took me YEARS and YEARS to finally understand…to really grasp the fact that it does NOT matter what others think.
That’s their problem, not mine.
If they don’t like what I’m doing…If they don’t like who I am or what I stand for…that’s their problem, not mine.
That’s not an easy lesson to learn. In fact, it’s damn hard!
Sometimes I still find myself falling into this trap of – What will others think of me? What will they say?
So I have to stop and remind myself that it does NOT matter. In fact, I say – Bring it On- because it only fuels me to prove them wrong.
So let it be your fuel…let it be something you brush off…let it be something you learn from but do NOT ever let it be how you define yourself.