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Just Go For It

I’ve been taking a lot of risks lately – not physical risks like skydiving or bungee jumping…but more of the emotional type of risks.

I have just been going for it – and guess what?  It feels AHH-MAZING!

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I’ve been reaching out to people and asking them to be a part of my team (Team Fight For Fit).  I’ve been asking people if they would like to join challenge groups to work on their health and fitness.  I have been connecting with old friends I haven’t seen in a while (like years) and asking them to hang out.

I am going after what I want.  I am going after what I want my life to look like.  I’m being more authentically ME.

Even when the people I reach out to don’t respond or they say no – you know what?  I feel PROUD.  I’m proud of myself.  Proud that I tried.  Proud that I won’t keep wondering “what if” because now I have an answer.

The rejections I get.  The silence on the other end.  It means I’m LIVING.  It means I’m working towards my dreams.

And do you know something else I’ve recently realized?  It’s not about whether the person says yes to joining my team or not.  It’s not about whether the person responds or not to my offer…it’s actually NOT about the outcome at all.

Before, I used to think it was ALL about the end result.  That’s how you measure success – how many “yes’s” you get, how many people you recruit, how much money is in the bank – BUT I’m here to tell you it’s NOT!

As I put myself out there more and more, share my personal thoughts and feelings, share my transformations (inside and outside) I realize it’s all about the PROCESS.  It’s about who I am becoming.

I am becoming STRONGER.  More confident.  More sure of what I want for myself.  Of who I want to be.  Of my purpose in life (besides wife and mother).

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So, today I say to you:  Do what scares the CRAP out of you.  Do that one thing that you are afraid to do.

Climb that wall.  Jump that hurdle.  Because, what’s on the other side is BEAUTIFUL.  It may not look like what you expected, BUT it’s beautiful all the same.

 

 

And Then There Was Light

Darkness comes before the light.

You’ve heard that before, right?  BUT have you ever stopped to really think about what it means?   To think about how that simple, yet powerful phrase, applies to so many aspects of your life?  Of any of our lives?

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Life isn’t easy.  Let’s just say that and get that out of the way because anyone who has been on this planet for more than 5 years (and hasn’t been living in a bubble) can attest to that.

“Darkness” can refer to SO many things – pain, depression, tragedy, relationship problems, health problems, addiction, career issues…the list could literally, go on and on.

If there wasn’t darkness, would you be able to appreciate the light?  To appreciate the good things that come your way as the black veil dissipates and the light shines through?

To be honest, for me, I’m not so sure I would be able to.  It seems, when you’ve had pain or struggle or any kind of “darkness”, the good stuff that eventually comes your way is SO much sweeter because of it.  (It’s kind of like when you put a pinch of salt in cookie batter – it brings out the sweetness exponentially.)

Is that human nature?  Or me just not being able to appreciate something without a kick in the pants?  My guess is – it’s probably a little of both.

Here are some things that I believe and have learned about darkness:

  1. The hard times are…well…HARD but they WILL be followed by good times.  I truly believe that no matter what you are struggling with, there will come a time when it is only a distant memory.
  2. It makes you STRONGER.  You will be amazed at how capable you truly are.
  3. There is a REASON for it.  It may not be evident at first (or for a long time) but I truly believe there is a reason for everything – whether it’s to teach you something, teach someone else something, or pave the way for others.

We will all have to suffer through darkness in our lives – in varying degrees- for short or extended periods of time.  There’s no doubt – it’s part of being alive.

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Here is something else I believe:  There WILL be LIGHT in the end.

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Stay strong.  Keep fighting.  What you want…what you need…is on the other side of the black night.

 

This is Summer

Summer time can be wonderful.

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The kids are home from school, the sun is shining, the pools are open and there’s plenty of time to do family activities that may not be possible during the busy school year.  There’s time to play together, eat together, vacation together….

But summer time can also be CRAZY!  Did I mention that the kids are home from school?  All the time?  Like every day?

Did I mention there’s plenty of time?  Plenty of time…for them to fight with each other because they are bored.  Plenty of time to get on each other’s nerves…and to get on my nerves because they don’t know what to do with themselves…plenty of time to whine about being bored and plenty of time to drive me to drink wine nightly.

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Summer time can be especially crazy for people in the military because it’s PCS season (permanent change of station).  Not only is school over and your routine is shot, but you are having to pack up and move.  Sometimes across the country.  Sometimes to another country – as is the case with our family!

This summer has been especially crazy for us – moving out of our house, our house that we brought our third child home to, a house on a street where the neighbors were absolutely wonderful to living out of suitcases while visiting family for several months as we prepare to move overseas.

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This life is CRAZY.  Being a military spouse is crazy.  Having little kids ages 5 and under is crazy (and exhausting) BUT…as I played with the kids in the pool this afternoon…as I watched them splashing and laughing…an overwhelming wave of something came over me.  It’s a feeling I’m not really sure how to describe but I found myself thinking – This is what summer is all about.  Just being together.  Playing outside.  Laughing together.

And for those moments that we were in the pool together…for those moments that they were smiling from ear to ear as they took turns jumping to me- I realized – this is summer.  This is what it’s all about.

Hell, this is what LIFE is about- moments of pure joy, of being in the now, of being present with your kids and the people you love…only to be broken by the sounds of the kids bickering over a ball and whining over whose turn it is with said ball.

Life is filled with GOOD things.  Life is filled with BAD things.  But…get this…

The beautiful thing is you get to CHOOSE which things you dwell on.  You get to CHOOSE which things matter in your life.  You get to CHOOSE which things to remember, and which things to discard.

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CHOOSE wisely, my friends.  You only get to live once.


In honor of summer boredom…I’m going to share some of my favorite, HEALTHY summer treats to make with the kids!

Chunky Monkey Banana Ice Cream

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http://www.emilieeats.com/chunky-monkey-banana-ice-cream/

Healthier Fruit Pizza

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http://www.layersofhappiness.com/fruit-pizza/

Healthy Pineapple Dole Whip

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http://www.chelseasmessyapron.com/healthy-dole-whip-smoothie/

Adulting Can Be Fun

Adulting is hard…but… does it always have to be that way?

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My 6 year old niece asked my sister something a few weeks ago that has stuck with me.   It got me thinking.  And it made me kind of sad, too.

She asked:  Can you still have fun when you’re an adult?

Naturally, my thoughts jump to:  Well, let’s see.  There are bills to pay.  Obligations to meet.  Jobs to go to.  Chores to be done.  People to take care of.  And oh crap….taxes are due next month.  And there is NOT enough time in the day to do all the things you HAVE to do so you can do the things you WANT to do because by the end of the day after I cook and do the dishes and entertain the kids and put them in the car and take them out of the car and take care of the baby and feed the baby and change the diapers  all I want to do is crawl into bed and go to sleep.

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Sound familiar?

We are given this one life.  This ONE LIFE.  Is that what it’s really supposed to be about?  Going from one obligation to the next and paying bills and going to work just so we can put food onto the table until we die?

When do we lose our ability to have fun?  When do we lose our ability to play and imagine?  When do we lose our ability to live in the NOW?

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Here’s the thing – I’m not telling you not to pay taxes (please do).  I’m not telling you not to call your Aunt Irene on her birthday or to go to your mediocre job or to not pay your rent on time.

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What I am saying, though, is this:  You can CHOOSE.

You can choose how you THINK about this life which in turn will affect how you FEEL.

You can change your perspective.  For example, “Gee, I don’t really like my job but at least I have one in this economy.  I’m lucky to be getting a paycheck.”

You have the POWER to create the life you want.  You have the STRENGTH to fight for it.  It is in EACH and every one of us.

The question, then, becomes this:  Are YOU going to tap into it?

Are YOU going to put in the work it takes to do what you want?  Be what you want?  Live where you want?  Have what you want?

OR…

Are you going to play the “woe is me” card and the “Suzy down the street has it easier because her parents are rich” card?

People are AMAZING.  People do amazing things every SINGLE damn day.

People who have lost their legs run marathons.  People who have been told they will never walk again get up.  People donate bone marrow to save other people’s lives.  People overcome addiction.   People walk on the moon.  People fight for their country.  People perform brain surgery.  People survive brain surgery.

You too, can do amazing things.  Truly, you can.

So…here’s what I would tell my niece:  You can absolutely have fun as an adult.  Sometimes it’s harder because there are certain things you have to take care of but you can always figure out ways to have fun and make time to play.  Sometimes problems are harder to figure out when you’re an adult.  Sometimes people let the bad stuff get in the way of the good stuff.  The most important thing to remember is this – You can be whoever you want to be and do whatever you want to do if you just TRY.

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Keep dreaming.

Keep imagining.

Keep believing.

Keep doing.

 

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The Other 95 Percent

Did you know that 95% of people in the world will never reach their full potential?

That is A LOT of people who are choosing to live an average life…who are choosing to settle for mediocrity.

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They will never have the life they want, the job they want, the income they want, the relationship they want, the friends they want, the house they want, the body they want….(the list could go on) because they are NOT willing to put the work in.

This is a sad and unfortunate truth.  How many people do you know who WISH for something different in their lives but are not doing anything about it?  They continue to do whatever it is they are doing to uphold whatever level of mediocrity they have achieved because they don’t know what else to do.  They aren’t willing to put in the work…to make a CHANGE…

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It is all up to YOU.  The choice is yours…do you settle for what you have or do you GO FOR IT???

At the end of my life I want to be able to say, “I gave it my all.  It wasn’t perfect.  I wasn’t the best.  But I gave it everything I had.  No regrets.”

Change is scary – I get it!!!  It’s much easier to do what you’ve always done…or is it?

Is it easier to continue to be overweight instead of exercising and eating healthy?

Is it easier to continue being depressed than it is to go get the help you need?

Is it easier to stay in a job you hate than to find a new one?

Only you can answer that…but for me…it’s a no-brainer.  I would choose exercising, getting help and finding a new job any day over continuing to do something that isn’t working for me.

How do I know?  Because I’ve been there!  For years I’ve done things that weren’t working for me and I continued to do them because I just didn’t know what else to do.  Was I happy?  Hell no!  Was I always looking for something else?  Hell yes!

Finally, I found BeachBody and coaching and I knew deep in my bones that this was it…that this opportunity could be something HUGE – huge for me mentally, physically, emotionally and financially.

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I have BIG dreams.  I have BIG goals and I will not stand in my way.  That’s right – I said “I will not stand in MY way.”

Are you willing to do what the other 95% are not?  And if you are…and when you do…people will judge.  They will judge and form opinions about what they don’t understand.

They will talk.  They will laugh.  They will point fingers.

But you know what?  LET THEM.

Because those are the people who will remain in the 95% while you, my dear, will be rising to the top 5%.