Adulting is hard…but… does it always have to be that way?
My 6 year old niece asked my sister something a few weeks ago that has stuck with me. It got me thinking. And it made me kind of sad, too.
She asked: Can you still have fun when you’re an adult?
Naturally, my thoughts jump to: Well, let’s see. There are bills to pay. Obligations to meet. Jobs to go to. Chores to be done. People to take care of. And oh crap….taxes are due next month. And there is NOT enough time in the day to do all the things you HAVE to do so you can do the things you WANT to do because by the end of the day after I cook and do the dishes and entertain the kids and put them in the car and take them out of the car and take care of the baby and feed the baby and change the diapers all I want to do is crawl into bed and go to sleep.
We are given this one life. This ONE LIFE. Is that what it’s really supposed to be about? Going from one obligation to the next and paying bills and going to work just so we can put food onto the table until we die?
When do we lose our ability to have fun? When do we lose our ability to play and imagine? When do we lose our ability to live in the NOW?
Here’s the thing – I’m not telling you not to pay taxes (please do). I’m not telling you not to call your Aunt Irene on her birthday or to go to your mediocre job or to not pay your rent on time.
What I am saying, though, is this: You can CHOOSE.
You can choose how you THINK about this life which in turn will affect how you FEEL.
You can change your perspective. For example, “Gee, I don’t really like my job but at least I have one in this economy. I’m lucky to be getting a paycheck.”
You have the POWER to create the life you want. You have the STRENGTH to fight for it. It is in EACH and every one of us.
The question, then, becomes this: Are YOU going to tap into it?
Are YOU going to put in the work it takes to do what you want? Be what you want? Live where you want? Have what you want?
Are you going to play the “woe is me” card and the “Suzy down the street has it easier because her parents are rich” card?
People are AMAZING. People do amazing things every SINGLE damn day.
People who have lost their legs run marathons. People who have been told they will never walk again get up. People donate bone marrow to save other people’s lives. People overcome addiction. People walk on the moon. People fight for their country. People perform brain surgery. People survive brain surgery.
You too, can do amazing things. Truly, you can.
So…here’s what I would tell my niece: You can absolutely have fun as an adult. Sometimes it’s harder because there are certain things you have to take care of but you can always figure out ways to have fun and make time to play. Sometimes problems are harder to figure out when you’re an adult. Sometimes people let the bad stuff get in the way of the good stuff. The most important thing to remember is this – You can be whoever you want to be and do whatever you want to do if you just TRY.
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